The Game of Life has only a few pivotal moments; graduating college, choosing a career, and getting married. And most people only want to do that last one once in their life. So when a friend asked me to shoot his proposal to his longtime girlfriend, I was both elated and terrified. Happy for two close friends of mine, but scared out of my wits about the pressure of capturing such a moment.
I'm a landscape photographer and I rarely have people in my images. The thought of split-second reaction timing to photography and not setting up a tripod and adjusting hundreds of setting before taking the shot was somewhat foreign to me. A proposal, for those of you who haven't proposed or been proposed to, is mer seconds on one knee, hopefully a 'yes,' and possible subsequent tears from one or two involved parties. It can last 10-15 seconds and as a photographer, it's your job to capture a bevy of emotions in that short amount of time. God forbid something goes wrong.
So I did what I always do with client work, I researched and planned for the worst.
"Text me the details."
Getting as much information about what's going to happen that day is pertinent. I'm a millennial so I did what my generation does best, I limited my on-phone time and texted the boyfriend exchanging details and questions about anything and everything I could think of. Some important things to think about:
- Date/time. When will this all be going down?
- Location. Both the place and the exact spot he was planning on going down on one knee.
- Hiding spot. Finding a place to hide as well as what direction they will arrive at the spot.
- Backup plan. What if there is an issue and who else might be good to coordinate on the day of?
I wanted to know exactly what was going to happen before it happened. The key was to limit the amount of reacting I would have to do in the moment. That way I could focus on the camera and capturing the exact moments I needed.
"I only want to do this once."
Normally when I hike out with camera gear I go as minimal as possible for weight. One body, one lens. But for this proposal, I'd be driving to the location and be steps away form my car. So I brought extra lenses, an extra body, batteries for days, flashes and other accessories. I knew I would only end up using one camera and one lens for the actual proposal, but having backups and a range of tools mitigated the risk of something failing. I also knew I'd be taking some portraits and group photos following the surprise. I ended up using a 70-200mm lens which allowed me a nice focal range as well as the ability to be a decent distance away from the action.
"I'm in position. On your way?"
I probably got there earlier than I needed, an hour, but you can never be too early to a once-in-a-lifetime moment. I had been to this location before but I still scoped out decent hiding places on Google Maps. I knew they both would be entering from the right so I needed to be left of them. The boyfriend knew where I would be and to make sure the girlfriend would be on his right as well, so she would be facing the camera.
I then started taking test shots. Make sure everything is dialed in. I put my camera on manual mode because I didn't even want the camera to have to calculate anything, even though that takes milliseconds. I trusted my auto-focus speed enough that I left it on and I knew I'd be moving in closer as the proposal was happening. I wouldn't recommend manual focusing at all unless you know your auto-focus speed is garbage (a7s w/ Canon lens...).
"Just parked. Go time."
After hanging behind a dumpster for far too long for my taste, I got a text saying they were walking over now and to be ready. Finger on the trigger, I peaked around and started shooting. The boyfriend wasn't down on his knee for more than 5 seconds and the rest was history. I reveled myself and started moving towards the couple, side stepping and firing the entire time. It's amazing I didn't trip.
This is a high stress photo job. Having as many variables planned out and all your questions answered before it all goes down will still not fully prepare you. But, by being confident in your skills and having a good understanding of what is about to happen will prepare you to adapt for any situation. This was my first surprise proposal but I knew my skills as a photographer and did my research beforehand and the results speak for themselves, a happy client and a happy couple.
Have you ever shot a surprise proposal? How do you manage friends who become clients? Would you ever turn down work you had never shot before?